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Jul 27
intj-thoughts:

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intj-thoughts:

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Jul 27

quote One of the reason why I dislike showing emotions is sometimes my mind tells a very good joke in a wrong time.

— INTJ author (via haphazardsquiggles)
Jul 27

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Everyone sees me as a stone cold, lifeless, emotionless husk. I am an INTJ. I don’t paint pretty pictures, I don’t write mushy love notes, I don’t want someone to gush to me about how they think I am everything they ever wanted. I want a connection. I want the mental stimulation that finding someone who understands everything I actually am can bring. Now, when I do find these things in someone, a switch can be flipped, a new person can seem to emerge. I put everything together that I do actually feel when I find that connection down so that I could try and show you what happens. Now, I do not want some dirty feeler to read this and think I am a pent up pot of emotion that needs to be cracked, that is far from the case. Look at this below, these are things I wish I could express more directly in relationships, and I feel like any INTJ would want them to be expressed. It Is best that my hindsight and introspection be used to show others what can happen beneath the frozen exterior.

1. I use song lyrics (or quotes or many other things) written by others to communicate emotion. Symbols are also values as they communicate a message without having to use a bunch of words. Verbal expression of feelings is difficult because I’m almost self conscious about it. It’s vocabulary I’m not used to using, and I witness others (feelers) using it in excess. I don’t want you to think I’m just throwing words around. I have deep emotions, and while others may not see it, the connection that I seek makes it prevalent.

2. I use the well written words of others to help me with this. And if I do say anything affectionate, it’s a big deal.
Spending time together includes doing our own thing while sharing oxygen. I enjoy you being in my space (most of the time). That doesn’t mean I don’t want face to face time, but we can spend quality time together without actually having to talk.

a. I am hard on myself, indescribably so. I am disappointed when I let you down because I know you are also disappointed too. It is one of the most painful things for me to think that I cannot measure up to what you want.

b. I WANT to play with you; I want sex to be fun. But at the same time it is something very mental for me. There is much more that goes into it beyond arousal; it is connection based, extremely mental, and I want to be ONE with you.

3. A relationship is an investment. I can decide quickly who will work out and who will not. I make quick judgments, and once I decide on the one who will work, I am invested. If I know a relationship is done with, I cut emotion quickly.

4. I look out for those closest to me. If I enjoy something, I want you to be able to share the enjoyment. If I’m able to enjoy something and you aren’t with me, I spend the time wishing you were there to enjoy it too. If I find something I like, I want to either share mine or get one for you too. It’s another way I show affection.

5. Try to stick to the plans we’ve made. I get disappointed when things don’t go according to plan. If we are going out on a Friday night, and we decided on Pizza, I can deal with switching to Chinese. Just don’t call me Thursday afternoon and tell me you have to reschedule. If I actually like you, I would have been looking forward to it. (If I was relieved you canceled, it’s not going to work out with us anyway).

6. I am more sensitive than you think. I take critique well. I don’t take your criticism well. You are important and so is your opinion. You do have the ability to hurt my feelings.


7. INFJs want peace and harmony. So do I, but peace and harmony for me looks like finding a workable solution or a resolution. I don’t bend to make peace; I can get stubborn. I like to come to a win/win solution for us both. Loose ends bother me. I will never be coy about bringing up issues. Empathy is difficult because I can be self centered. Knowing I hurt you hurts me, but I also need to know why what I did hurt you. It has to make sense to me. If I love you, I am direct with you because I want things to get worked out. Bottom line: fixing the problem, and fixing it quickly, is the goal.

8. I always want to make the relationship better. It doesn’t mean the relationship is broken. It just means I want to make a good thing the best thing. If I tell you to try something new, I’m not trying to change who you are as a person. I’m trying to help you be the best you can be. If I didn’t care, I’d leave you to yourself.

9. I collect info over time and make general observations. If I accuse you of something and you ask for specifics, I have a hard time recalling exacts. I know something happened, I just don’t remember the trivial (to me) details. Once I generalize, I toss the details. If I do remember details, it means something is terribly wrong

Jul 27
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quote It would be nice to have a deep conversation about life “in general” but “normal people” are too close-minded for that…

— Me (via knowme4me)
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Jul 27

Things people hate about each type in gifs. →

annathenarcissist:

ENFP: Personally I love this about you guys but it can be irritating to others. Smothering

ESFJ: Stop talking about pointless things.

ENFJ: You guys could use some self confidence.

INFP: A message from me. (But I still love you guys)

ESTP:

ISTP: You’re too…

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Jul 27

Reblog if you are a Slytherin INTJ.

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Jul 27

INTJs on ENFPs:

beachacker:

From INTJForum

"In my experience, they’re very vibrant and friendly and they somehow manage to defeat the INTJ death stare by making us do corrupt things like laugh and smile."

Jul 27

vindictadulcae:

ENFP: You never tell me you love me, and I tell you allllllll the time.

INTJ: Well, I don’t see why I have to tell you I love you again. I’ll update you if it changes.